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Posted by
Nadia.Suadi
on 28-08-2008
in Why would I want to sign my life away to more and more debts? Marriage and babies ain’t my cup of tea. [ Nadia ]
justfriend> LOL. or deadline for the guys because they may have "other" problems. :P
Hey guys,
U all ain't a "lost cause" Just tat everyone have different reasons for marrying, living and remaining single. The last reason to want marriage wld classify under these ridiculous rules & pressure most people unknowingly place themselves under. I am sure many will find it familiar around us, some of them goes like this : 1. My eggs are getting old, so I shd hurriedly find a man (ie Oh yeah,, marry) 2. Lets buy a place (ie oh yes,,, have to marry 1st) 3. Must reproduce (ie, Shit! Need a woman/man,,,,,yes marry) 4. I am getting old, just need a woman/man, its normal wat (ie,, find someone marry) If you read carefully, getting married seems like it was a solution then. But still, it is a secondary reason to want to marry. I'm sorry to highlight they'd better brace for possible divorce cos those are your practical issues or biological issues inteferring into your emotional life long decision. Let's hope when the time come for challenges like marriage itself & babies & commitment arrives, you have enough reason-accompanying-solutions to withstand the survival of the marriage through many many years to come. ;p Is it still a wonder why 1/3 of marriages end up in divorce in Singapore??
Posted by
justfriend
on 28-08-2008
in Why would I want to sign my life away to more and more debts? Marriage and babies ain’t my cup of tea. [ Nadia ]
Nadia: ...Deadline before the ladies' eggs dries up! , hahaha, or perhaps the sperm cells lost its strength to penetrate.
We do the things we love to enjoy before we have babies, I think that is not selfish. In fact, this is a wise thing to do. But I think people tend to forget the time and before you know I am 34. I know some people love kids, but they put on hold to have one themselves and when they wanted to start a family, no luck.. quite sad. In the end, they adopted one from Indonesia.
Another scenario when the child turns 18, the father is over 60. To some people they are not worried about it. But I think it is most enjoyable if you could see your kids grew up to become adult get married and have children when you reach 60. Yes, society has to play a part in raising our expectations. We should not raise our already high expectation too much that we neglect other things in our life. Hope I make sense here :)
Correction : Fairy tale marriages do not exist
Fairy tales marriage do not exist....
jamie, yeah babies are just angel and devils. haha
Well, you I guess you have the blissfully married, for example, friend of mine got married at 21, her husband was 34 or was it 32? Well she's my age, so now she should be 23, they now live in Melbourne, and have one child. Then there is the completely disfunctional marriage, where one day the husband or wife wakes up and goes "who the hell is that sleeping next to me?" but I think you take life as it is, day by day. I mean I might be forcing a round block into a square hole by using this quote, but here is a song by the beatles that goes, "... let it be, there will be an answer, let it be". I believe that you'll know what to do when you meet that person. It may not even mean getting married, you could just be living with each other. No strings attached, but some people have been living like that for years! But being an only child, (and I'm forever denying this, I'M NOT SPOILT!!") now that that's over and done with, being an only child, you wonder what it would be like when, your parents are gone, who do you have left? I'm in Australia now, I'm used to living on my own, but in those times, when you're single at maybe age 45, when you'd like to have the company of that special someone... but oh well I'm only 23 years old.. what do I know.. Oh I'm a guy by the way... (that was kinda out of place... oh yea Its so you know this is a guy's point of view, and that the guy is an only child :D) ther we go... now with that out of the way, I can now head to bed :P Nights!!!
I think...we are a lost cause.
Could be a cultural thing perhaps, to fear of the 'what if's' then to regret of the 'what coulds'. but then again, the baby is nvr goin to be urs like 4ever .. u may bring it to life, but ur just an instrument .. at the end, the kid will still pave their own path .. don't seriously bother giving ur kid the best & all .. fretting on tht will do u no good cos at the end of the day .. how exactly u'd define ur best to the kid might not wht the kid defines as ur best at the end of the day too .. rite? haih .. bottom line is: if a kid comes, comes lor .. don't have mah don't have lor .. rite / not?
yeah guess so.. think it's just because having a baby is a responsibility for LIFE.
I think IMHO, it's not high expectations thts the real prob, .. it's more like paranoia talk of the 'what if's' in life ... tht i get out of the gist of the blogs these wk :p.
had to go for dinner RC.. :)
Justfriend: High expectations come when your society is developed and prosperous... so in a way I think our society has made us the way we are
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